Validate (verb) : to authorize, ascertain the truth (Dictionary.com)
Some of you are familiar with this..
I can’t make this move until I make sure so and so approves. And if he/she goes “ehhh…. I don’t know about that “maybe I should reconsider because I value their opinion to the point I idolize it. Or I’ll just let it go because if they don’t approve, they won’t support this (I NEEED them even if God approved this already) thus, it won’t work. Easypeasy!! (My nieces say this)
Or this may be more familiar…
Man. Everyone seems happy with someone besides them. Maybe if I get me a side thing, I will feel valuable and i can post about how much I’m happy with him (probably a lie). And who knows, though I claimed him as a side thing I can SEE him being my husband. But for now, I’ll just try it out cause I’m tired of being single. Yes, I may have to lower my standards and break God’s law but I NEED him to make me feel happy.
No sister, NO! Brethren, watch out now!
Why have we made man god over our life?!
I’ve experienced both scenarios above in different times in my life, more than once. And sure it worked out…but temporarily. I’ve always been filled with ideas but I grew up in a habit waiting to hear a yes from man or a “it’s okay” or a “I forgive you” to feel better about myself. But I’ve been seeking the wrong validation for too long.
I remember shutting off ideas & telling myself it won’t work merely because other people shut them down….
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” (Matthew 6:33)
Point blank, I should’ve seekers God and brought my ideas and EVERYTHING before the Lord in prayer.
“I sought the LORD, and He heard me, And delivered me from all my fears.” (Psalms 34:4)
He listens to our prayers, 24 hours 7 days a week.
I have questions. Did man place your idea to help the homeless in your mind? Why not bring it before God the Father. Feeling unhappy? Trust me! I know, BUT take this advice: give your heart to Christ. POUR it out. For “blessed are those who keep His testimonies, Who seek Him with the whole heart!”(Psalms 119:2)
Think about it, a sinner can and will never fill another sinners heart.
Man cannot fill man up.
Man cannot complete you.
Man cannot provide you with eternal gifts.
And at any moment man makes you “feel” good temporarily, you should think about how this betters you.
“Hell and Destruction are never full; So the eyes of man are never satisfied.”(Proverbs 27:20)
Seek validation from where abundance comes from. Not validation that lacks.
“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”(John 10:10)
If you’re reading this, you are most likely interested in becoming a better woman. So I encourage you in love to seek your validation from God. He already has. He sent His only Son to die on the cross for you and I.
Here’s how I see it, man don’t have facts. We have opinions. In what manner does one have the right to place his/her opinion on you?
Allow the Word to build you up. Cause when a storm comes around, you’ll stand firm in God knowing you’re on solid rock.
If you seek to be filled by man, stop. You’ve already have a chance in God. Choose Him and you won’t ever regret it. Man can deny you, and even hate you. But fix your eyes on Jesus and you’ll have peace pass any man’s understanding.
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