As much as this blog is to help sisters become better in Christ, this blog is also to help me.
There’s a lot I still can’t share because there’s a lot I’m still working on. And I’m not a believer in telling a sister what to do when I haven’t searched for that spot in my eye (Matthew 7:3-5).
So to start: I’ve always thought I had one commandment together which was “You do not murder” (Exodus 20:13). But as I was studying my Word I found this sisters:
“Do not marvel, my brothers, if the world hates you. We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brothers. The one not loving his brother stays in death. Everyone hating his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has everlasting life staying in him. By this we have known love, because He laid down His life for us. And we ought to lay down for the brothers. ” ( 1 John 3:13-16)
How often do we love our brothers and sisters? And what are some ways we present our hate for our brothers and sisters?
I think as women and growing women (for those transitioning), it is really vital as daughters of the King to watch our thought process. Our thoughts reveal our hearts. And sister even scripture states that the heart is wicked (Jer. 17:9).
THINK: Have I said mean things intentionally to hurt my sibling because he/she hurt me? Things like: I wish you were never born, you’re so stupid, etc. Or even in my actions, how have I showed love. Did I suck my teeth when your annoying coworker had a lot of bags in their hands and were walking too slow in front of you? Did you roll your eyes when the sister filled with happiness came around to hug you? (Is that normal?!)
Spend a lot of time examining how is it you choose your words /actions and why is it you slander those the way you do. Have they hurt you? Do they offend you? Why haven’t you seeked Your Father’s face for healing instead of telling the other sister about herself and how she hurt you?
REALIZE: The Spiritual war is not between man. What a Spiritual war this would be if we all realized we are distracted. How easy is it to forget that the war is between good and evil. Realize we waste time murdering each other when we just got to murder the enemies’ kingdom. He’s the enemy, he’s the liar, he’s the murderer! Not your boss!
Just to relate, if you personally know me, you know I am quiet-spirited for the most part. But when it came to someone trying to throw me under the bus, or disrespect me?! Oh, your girl was quick to let them know, I am not the one! And I was also quick to let them know they’re wrong and that they were this and that. I didn’t want to be around them or even look in their eyes. Ouch. But little did I know, it was also bitterness in my heart that didn’t allow me to love them when they hurt me. The same tongue I used to praise Jesus with, was the same tongue I used to say the nastiest thing about someone else. Oh man, who does my tongue serve?!
In becoming better, I encourage you to join me in following God’s commandments. Murdered your hater today? Ask the Lord for forgiveness. Truly, pray for your hater. They’re also fighting a fight. Murdered the girl that tried to talk to your boo or ex boo? Ask the Lord for forgiveness and to remove the spirit of bitterness. Words hurt. They hurt the Father when He hears your words too. Speak and practice acts of love sis!