Trust Yahweh and Let Him in.


Shalom sisters, man has it been sooo long. I desire to write so many blogs but fail at completing them. I truly am not going to make an excuse and say I don’t have time. I haven’t prioritize this blog as I should. BUT. Now that I’ve told you (especially myself) that, I will be working on more frequent posts.

I don’t celebrate my birthday but I am a year older, and prior to this time I reflected a lot about my life and where I was with myself and Yahweh. I reflected on where I am and where I want to be or more so where Yahweh wants me. And I realized something. I’ve spent 20+ years trusting myself and have gotten nowhere. Jokes on my flesh, right? I live with my parents rent-free, college graduate, Master of Social Work candidate, working a job with great pay, “self-sufficient”. This is everything that “I” did because I always wanted it. This is what I defined as success. Independent black woman, right? please. I realized I spent the majority of my life trusting myself, and yes I climbed up WORLDLY ladders. But let’s be real, my self esteem was crazy low, I did not have a prayer life where the enemy knew he couldn’t mess with me, unless someone was lifting me up in prayer, I was not in peace, did not have a sound mind, bitter, mad at soo many people and myself. I mean, what wasn’t I dealing with? And it’s all because I did not Trust the Elohim Almighty. For many women in the world, this may not hit them/you (maybe) hard, if it doesn’t maybe you need to re-evaluate yourself. Seriously, do it.

Being the driver of my life for so many years, the Most High BROKE me and humbled my derriere. I truly thought I had it together, but I didn’t even have Him! WHAT?! Have mercy!!! DANGEROUS!!! Yes ma’am He humbled me cause I couldn’t do it myself. I am not going to be prideful and say I got tired anyway, because it’s nothing I did ( tearing up). If I wanted to, I could of drove my life some more, but HE helped me realized I was not going anywhere. Oh how the heart is wicked. But when the Most High chooses you, you can run as far as you want, but you have to make your choice if you will obey or be condemn. I made my choice.

The point of sharing all of this is to say: STOP trusting yourself. You know nothing. You know some vocabulary, proper English, some math, some history. That’s cute. Good job. But do you have applied knowledge, any spiritual gifts, a relationship with the Most High? Can Yahweh call YOU a friend? Are you at peace in the midst of the storm? Have inner joy? Have a passion in pleasing Yahweh? I don’t know about you but it’s recently I realized WHERE JOY was. DUH! in Yahweh! not me! Without Yahweh, I am foolish and without. NOTHING! UNWORTHY!

“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

“Blessed is that man that maketh the LORD his trust, and respecteth not the proud, nor such as turn aside to lies.” Psalms 40:4

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.Trust ye in the LORD for ever: for in the LORD JEHOVAH is everlasting strength” Isaiah 26:3-4

Set thy heart upon thy goods; and say not, I have enough for my life. Follow not thine own mind and thy strength, to walk in the ways of thy heart: And say not, Who shall controul me for my works? for the Lord will surely revenge thy pride. Ecclesiasticus 5:1-3

Purpose your heart to be set apart for the Most High and watch how He will take care of you. I love the back seat. Because I know that Yahweh has a better route for me then I EVER would’ve chosen for myself.

Be at peace sister. 🙂


The Problem with Emotions

I’d say I spent my whole life being emotionally led. If someone hurt me, I had a bad day and if someone did good to me, it was a glorious day. The problem was I allowed others to control my life and I sinned every day not trusting my Father in heaven to direct my path. I allowed man to direct my path and to turn my eyes away from The Father.

Sister, are you emotionally led? Do you allow people to hand you over your emotions? Or do you rebuke it?  Do you do the most silliest thing while you’re in your feelings?

WARNING: We were created with emotions. Their functions are to help us communicate and motivate action. However we must not let them control us because they can be (1) deceptive and (2) straight up wrong.

Should we act on every emotion?

Are emotion facts?

No. Some emotions can be sinful thoughts which lead to sinful actions. (E.g.: jealous thoughts to hateful actions)

To be emotionally-led is to lack self control. So let’s check what scripture says about self-control.
“He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.” (‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭25:28‬)

That doesn’t sound like a safe city or a civilized place/person. When I think of a city with no walls, I visualize a city with no government, unorganized, and disastrous. A unorganized person with no authority (from the Father) is very concerning and dangerous.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.” (‭‭Galatians‬ ‭5:22-24‬)


Spend tomorrow, this weekend, next week (however long) processing your emotions and understanding how it got there and then analyze the reason why it’s there. Then ask, is it right? Is it healthy? Does it move me to love others? And does it inspire me to enter into the kingdom?

As I do this more often I realize, I struggle with some emotions that I never knew existed within me. I’ve recognized how wicked I’ve allowed my heart to become. But I’m using this time now to become better. I encourage you to take the time to bring that emotion(s) to the Father through Jesus Christ and ask:
Father, how did (emotion) get here? Forgive me for allowing (emotion) to live here. It is not my master, You are. Help me to forgive myself and the person that allowed (emotion) to get there. I just want to have Your fruits so that I can take on Your Spirit and not my flesh. So please, help me fight this emotion until Your return. In Jesus name, amen.

Sister, checking out emotions seems tiny  especially since we are more emotional than men. You might think we are met to be this way. But remember, Christ calls us to be sound-minded. How can we be sound-minded if we’re not talking to our brother because he told us our work appears lazy? Especially if he’s telling the truth. Don’t let your emotions keep you from making it into the Kingdom.

“Deliver us from evil Lord.” (Matthew 6: 13)

Jeremiah 17:9, Mark 7:21-23

Salsa, salsa, Salsa! 

In becoming a better woman, it’s important that we become better at our future roles as a wife to our husband and a mother to our child(ren). And though the American society doesn’t believe it, cooking is a woman’s role in the Bible. Proof? 

Proof. “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” (‭‭Titus‬ ‭2:3-5‬ )

“So I want younger widows to marry, have children, and manage their homes so that they won’t give the enemy any reason to slander us. ”‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭5:14‬ ‭

Side note: if you disagree, take it up with God in prayer sister.

So today, I learned to make salsa from scratch.  Yes ma’am. 

Here are the following ingredients I used (I used 1 tomato, a 1/2 of white onion and a 1/2 of red onion):  Above photo: tomatoes, jalapeño peppers, limes, white onion, red onion, cloves of garlic.  (I detox the produces with activated charcoal in water for about 3-4 minutes to remove toxins) 

 Above photo: so I squeezed the 3 limes and got lime juice. I added 1 tsp of cumin, 1 “cup” (not accurate measurement) of cilantro and 1 tbsp of chili pepper.
So I used:

1) 1 tomato but use more to reduce the “hot spicy” taste 

2) 2 3/4 jalapeño peppers

3) 1/2 of a white onion

4) 1/2 of a red onion

5) 5 cloves of garlic ( used mortar and pestle to “mash it” with 2 cloves and desired sea salt: but be careful with the sea salt, you cannot take away)

6) 1 cup of cilantro (that’s a lot I used less than that)

7) 1 tsp of cumin

8) 1 tbsp of chile powder 

Cut all the ingredients to desired size. Use food processor if you want to get the produce really small. I made my own chunky but wish I chopped up my onions a bit smaller. Pour all the ingredients together into a jar and let it sit in the fridge. 

 And just like that I made salsa: 

I prepared rice, turkey meatballs, salad,  plaintains and added salsa on top of my dish: Delicioso

Validation? But From Whom?

Validate (verb) : to authorize, ascertain the truth (

Some of you are familiar with this..
I can’t make this move until I make sure so and so approves. And if he/she goes “ehhh…. I don’t know about that “maybe I should reconsider because I value their opinion to the point I idolize it. Or I’ll just let it go because if they don’t approve, they won’t support this (I NEEED them even if God approved this already) thus, it won’t work. Easypeasy!! (My nieces say this)

Or this may be more familiar…
Man. Everyone seems happy with someone besides them. Maybe if I get me a side thing, I will feel valuable and i can post about how much I’m happy with him (probably a lie). And who knows, though I claimed him as a side thing I can SEE him being my husband. But for now, I’ll just try it out cause I’m tired of being single. Yes, I may have to lower my standards and break God’s law but I NEED him to make me feel happy. 

No sister, NO! Brethren, watch out now!

Why have we made man god over our life?!

I’ve experienced both scenarios above in different times in my life, more than once. And sure it worked out…but temporarily. I’ve always been filled with ideas but I grew up in a habit waiting to hear a yes from man or a “it’s okay” or a “I forgive you” to feel better about myself. But I’ve been seeking the wrong validation for too long.

I remember shutting off ideas & telling myself it won’t work merely because other people shut them down….

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”‭‭ (Matthew‬ ‭6:33)

Point blank, I should’ve seekers God and brought my ideas and EVERYTHING before the Lord in prayer.

“I sought the LORD, and He heard me, And delivered me from all my fears.”‭‭ (Psalms‬ ‭34:4‬)

He listens to our prayers, 24 hours 7 days a week.

I have questions. Did man place your idea to help the homeless in your mind? Why not bring it before God the Father. Feeling unhappy? Trust me! I know, BUT take this advice: give your heart to Christ. POUR it out. For “blessed are those who keep His testimonies, Who seek Him with the whole heart!”‭‭(Psalms‬ ‭119:2‬)

Think about it, a sinner can and will never fill another sinners heart.

Man cannot fill man up.

Man cannot complete you.

Man cannot provide you with eternal gifts.

And at any moment man makes you “feel” good temporarily, you should think about how this betters you.

“Hell and Destruction are never full; So the eyes of man are never satisfied.”‭‭(Proverbs‬ ‭27:20‬)

Seek validation from where abundance comes from. Not validation that lacks.

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”‭‭(John‬ ‭10:10‬)
If you’re reading this, you are most likely interested in becoming a better woman. So I encourage you in love to seek your validation from God. He already has. He sent His only Son to die on the cross for you and I.

Here’s how I see it, man don’t have facts. We have opinions. In what manner does one have the right to place his/her opinion on you?

Allow the Word to build you up. Cause when a storm comes around, you’ll stand firm in God knowing you’re on solid rock.

If you seek to be filled by man, stop. You’ve already have a chance in God. Choose Him and you won’t ever regret it. Man can deny you, and even hate you. But fix your eyes on Jesus and you’ll have peace pass any man’s understanding.

Gossip 101- The Truth Behind Gossip


Gossip (noun):

(a) idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others: (

(b) information about the behavior and personal lives of other people (Merriam-Webster Dictionary)

“Gossip need not be false to be evil- there’s a lot of truth that shouldn’t be passed around.” – Frank A. Clark

In our culture, gossip is normal human behavior. Truly, it is. In any institution we have a role in (home, school, church, work etc.), gossip is so normalize sometimes we do not know that we do it. As the above definitions stated, gossip is “information” about another person’s life. Therefore, it’s also human behavior to judge and label the person that is the topic of discussion. But my friend, gossip is beyond that.

We must shift our mind and remember gossip is sin.

“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace for the hearers.” -Ephesians 4:29

What is sin? “Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law.” -1 John 3:4

Therefore, when we gossip (whether it is truth or not), we go against God’s Word/Law and pull away from Him entirely. We lessen our chance to enter the kingdom of God. Thus, the question now becomes: when we gossip, what does it say about us?

Sister/Brother, when we gossip our intentions are never good. We become talebearers and often slander our brother or sister even if the gossip is true. We present ourselves as unloving and destructive. So what you say about Sister Sally says more of you than of Sister Sally. The same breath we use to gossip about Sister Sally, is the same breath we can use to pray for Sister Sally.

In order for us to become better woman, we must change our mindset and realize gossip is straight up ugly. Gossip is foolish, mean and simply evil. And if Christ ask us to love our neighbors as ourselves, how then do we practice loving ourselves while destructing our fellow brother/sister?

“If God so loved us, we also ought to love one another….if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.”- 1 John 4:11-12

Ironically, gossip can be a struggle. When you’re sitting around with your girlfriends or homies and information leaks, our flesh wants to hear more. Omgsh, she slept with who? I knew she was no good?  And she got an abortion? That whore! And he’s with who? He is dead wrong (who are we to judge and label: this is not reproof). Trust me I know. But we have to evaluate and realize that we must not dwell with talebearers and worst of all, be a talebearer.

“He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets; Therefore do not associate with one who flatters with his lips.” – Proverbs 20:19

Sister/Brother, the Word is clear. If we associate ourselves with a talebearer, it is also sin. Clearly whatever the Bible instructs us, if we disobey we are trangressing. Therefore evaluate the life you live. What words do you release, what do you allow within?

Sister/Brother, let us aspire to live righteous and away from gossip. When we hear gossip, let us remove ourselves physically and/or stand up for the sister/brother in love. Trust me, that will cause some folk to dislike you but it’s important for us to do the will of God, not for other to like us. Approach the person that is being gossip about and share encouragement, or if you’re not moved to do that, pray for them and pray that you love them.  Prevent your name from being removed from the book of life. Love on a sister or brother, especially if she/he is your enemy. Love on them. And automatically, when you love on them, you love on you, but you also love on Christ. Let us not only be beautiful in our appearance, but let us also be beautiful in our hearts and minds.

Additional scriptures on gossip: Proverbs 11:13, Proverbs 18:8, Proverbs 26:20, Leviticus 19:16, Psalms 50:20, Exodus 23:1, James 4:11, Proverbs 16:28

Additional scriptures on love: 1 John 4:20-21, 1 Thessalonians 5:11, Mark 12:31, Philippians 4:8, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8