Intentional.

My childhood was something like this: wake up, go to school, go to church, play sports, dance, sing, repeat. Of course, there were days were I did things I enjoyed like blogging, vlogging, learning to sew, hang out etc. But for the most part I did a lot of  tasks under the mindset of “you’re just suppose to” rather than the “let’s get it!”mindset. So if you asked me what did I do in the last five ( or even ten) years of my life, today I’d say I existed. I met my requirement in every place but I was never really…Intentional. Because average was okay, I made the cut. But who’s really happy making the cut? I know I really wasn’t.

Now, here is where I can insert my sob story on how I grew up which is why I wasn’t intentional, but I won’t throw my valuable energy there, because I just don’t want to and it won’t benefit you or even myself.

One day, I got tired of doing the daily do’s and had to ask myself realistic questions because I was not happy being average. What do you want Rachel? Are you happy? Are you successful? How much do you care about your success? What do you even define as success?  I saw others succeed and wanted the same. Not their story exactly, but success in how it was properly defined for me. I began asking them questions, no matter how silly I felt, and answering my own questions for what they were.

Hearing the answers did hurt. But that “hurt” brought forth change. Some days better than others. But little by little, a new flower was sprouting! A happy intentional one.


In being intentional, I am able to understand what my goals are clearly and do things with meaning. For example, I no longer go to work because I have to (granted, I really do have to). But I make the most of work. If I am going to work, I am going to be the best at what I do. I want to be the best hugger/lover. I want to be the best sister, daughter, wife, friend, you NAME it.

And all of those best exist in outdoing myself. In outdoing myself, I have strategies on what I do to track my life and my success and slip ups (which will bring forth success). I longer want to be average. I have NO desire in doing so. I find joy in being intentional. Whatever I take part in, I put high expectation within myself to strive and do it with the greatest intent ever.

Are you striving? Are you happy with where you at? Don’t be average. Imagine how great you could be if only you did things with meaning?

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Shalom,

Rachel Nadine

What’s been up?

I am back!! I’ve been away from this blog for so long and I just have to blurt this one out: I MISSED IT HERE! *exhales* I just missed writing and just sharing what I am learning to be that better woman in every role gifted to me. Even the writer’s role! Yea, Rachel even the writers role!

What’s been up, you ask? I must say there is just much going on that honestly keeps me from getting on here to write. For example, work has gotten heavier which knocks me out when I get home, much is required of me in my parent’s home as far as keeping the home, and last but not least, I’m planning my husband to be and i’s wedding shower! Yes, I’m granted the wonderful opportunity to be his wife! Exciting but planning as been time-consuming.

Neither of the tasks above can ever be legit excuses, and neither am I complaining about them. Actually, I’m superbly grateful for finances to pay things off, my parents and the ability to love them up before I’m off to a new home, and the opportunity to become a awesome man’s wife. My focus however has not been here but the blog has been on my mind and is finally penciled into my schedule.

Your girl has got plans with this blog. With the changes being made in my life, I would like to tweak the avenue of my blog. The goal to become a better woman is endless in my life, but I desire to share more detailed and personal blogs. Therefore, I’ll be creating a section called, “a better wife” aside from the devotionals and DIYs.

The goal isn’t to give the insides of our life, but to share what I am learning.

So stick around, in becoming a better woman, that includes becoming a better and consistent writer.

Shalom & blessings!

Rachel Nadine

 

Chosen Daughter of Zion


Susie walks into Goodwill Thrift Store with a goal to find a matching living room chair for her burgundy set. Walking around the store for the 5th time, she ends up in front of the dirtiest chair on clearance for $9.50. Susie stares at the chair and smiles. “Upholstery”. She thought. She grabs it and walks to the register. As she waits in line, customers and employees walk by looking at the chair and Susie in a funk, and then back at the chair. As Susie walks to the register, the cashier mumbles under her breathe, “that chair is filthy.” Susie chuckles and says I think it’s beautiful. It has a lot of rough areas but I can put some work into it and make it brand new. “Whatever.” expresses the countenance of the cashier. The manager comes to Susie, overhearing her and says we have more of those same chairs out ready for trash tomorrow. Would you like them for free? We don’t want them. Susie agrees to see them. And when she does, she jumps for joy because it was the exact number she needed for her dining set. “I’ll pay $20 for them all. Thank you thank you thank you.”
FAST FORWARD

When Susie has family over for Sabbath service, they praise the chairs and Susie for them. “Oh, Susie, I just love coming here and sitting in such comfort.” ” Susie these are ONE of a kind, beautiful and rare.”  Those are the things they say.

Daughter of Zion of Israel, I would like to say, The Most High thinks the same for Israel. When we were chosen, it was not because our ancestors were off the chain, but it’s because we were few. (Deuteronomy 7:7). It’s nothing we did and nothing we could of ever done.


We played a whore, was rebellious but The Most High still dealt with us like a faithful Husband He is.

Daughter of Zion, you were chosen to leave your own life to walk the life that Yahweh has for you. That is in Holiness and obedience. We ought to act like it. Don’t sell yourself for short. Invest in yourself. Being set apart is far from being average. Be great and love to be great. Understand that you were bought with a price by the Most High Almighty Elohim (what!) and are being made new daily. Remember? Upholstery! That’s us!  We are not that old chair anymore. Sisters, I urge you, to walk in obedience to ALL of Yahweh’s law. Seek perfection and strive to please The Most High first in all your doings. I leave you with this:

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ: according as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:” Ephesians‬ ‭1:3-4‬ ‭

“For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:20‬ ‭


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Trust Yahweh and Let Him in.

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Shalom sisters, man has it been sooo long. I desire to write so many blogs but fail at completing them. I truly am not going to make an excuse and say I don’t have time. I haven’t prioritize this blog as I should. BUT. Now that I’ve told you (especially myself) that, I will be working on more frequent posts.

I don’t celebrate my birthday but I am a year older, and prior to this time I reflected a lot about my life and where I was with myself and Yahweh. I reflected on where I am and where I want to be or more so where Yahweh wants me. And I realized something. I’ve spent 20+ years trusting myself and have gotten nowhere. Jokes on my flesh, right? I live with my parents rent-free, college graduate, Master of Social Work candidate, working a job with great pay, “self-sufficient”. This is everything that “I” did because I always wanted it. This is what I defined as success. Independent black woman, right? please. I realized I spent the majority of my life trusting myself, and yes I climbed up WORLDLY ladders. But let’s be real, my self esteem was crazy low, I did not have a prayer life where the enemy knew he couldn’t mess with me, unless someone was lifting me up in prayer, I was not in peace, did not have a sound mind, bitter, mad at soo many people and myself. I mean, what wasn’t I dealing with? And it’s all because I did not Trust the Elohim Almighty. For many women in the world, this may not hit them/you (maybe) hard, if it doesn’t maybe you need to re-evaluate yourself. Seriously, do it.

Being the driver of my life for so many years, the Most High BROKE me and humbled my derriere. I truly thought I had it together, but I didn’t even have Him! WHAT?! Have mercy!!! DANGEROUS!!! Yes ma’am He humbled me cause I couldn’t do it myself. I am not going to be prideful and say I got tired anyway, because it’s nothing I did ( tearing up). If I wanted to, I could of drove my life some more, but HE helped me realized I was not going anywhere. Oh how the heart is wicked. But when the Most High chooses you, you can run as far as you want, but you have to make your choice if you will obey or be condemn. I made my choice.

The point of sharing all of this is to say: STOP trusting yourself. You know nothing. You know some vocabulary, proper English, some math, some history. That’s cute. Good job. But do you have applied knowledge, any spiritual gifts, a relationship with the Most High? Can Yahweh call YOU a friend? Are you at peace in the midst of the storm? Have inner joy? Have a passion in pleasing Yahweh? I don’t know about you but it’s recently I realized WHERE JOY was. DUH! in Yahweh! not me! Without Yahweh, I am foolish and without. NOTHING! UNWORTHY!

“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

“Blessed is that man that maketh the LORD his trust, and respecteth not the proud, nor such as turn aside to lies.” Psalms 40:4

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.Trust ye in the LORD for ever: for in the LORD JEHOVAH is everlasting strength” Isaiah 26:3-4

Set thy heart upon thy goods; and say not, I have enough for my life. Follow not thine own mind and thy strength, to walk in the ways of thy heart: And say not, Who shall controul me for my works? for the Lord will surely revenge thy pride. Ecclesiasticus 5:1-3

Purpose your heart to be set apart for the Most High and watch how He will take care of you. I love the back seat. Because I know that Yahweh has a better route for me then I EVER would’ve chosen for myself.

Be at peace sister. 🙂

 

Chastisement from the Father


I haven’t written for two weeks and there is a reason. Sis, be mindful I actually am filled with topics and ideas as I usually share on Instagram. But let’s just say my Father has been disciplining me and I’ve been listening and obeying His voice.

I praise Him for the chastisement because He told me:

“My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord; neither be weary of his correction: for whom the Lord loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth.”‭‭ (Proverbs‬ ‭3:11-12‬)

“And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: for whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.”‭‭ (Hebrews‬ ‭12:5-8‬)

“As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.”‭‭ (Revelation‬ ‭3:19‬)


Because of His reproof, I know HE LOVES ME. I am grateful, cause my heart doesn’t deserve love, but because He loves me, I love Him and I must obey Him.

Okay.

I want to remind my sisters who read this blog that I am a babe in my walk. Literally, more like an infant crying for mama and her milk (The Word) in desperate need.  Which means the things I share are things I’m convicted by in my own life and what I’ve gained understanding of BUT is very little. I practice it in my walk but I still have a way to go. I’m not better. I don’t have it together. It’s the Father that’s keeping me together. For real, for real!

To end, I beg you to understand that again: I do not know a lot. If anything, I’m ridding myself of some knowledge I thought was my truth. This walk can be overwhelming because I thought I had it together… BUT Yah. Man oh man He fixed me. He is breaking me and reforming me into His own. Hallelu Yah.


This blog reflects my walk. It does not reflect my knowledge, for there’s nothing I can boast about. What I know comes from Yahweh, my Father. And this blog is a public statement to encourage other sisters to walk towards the Father on the strait and narrow way. Few will find it, few will have ears for what they hear but the path IS there.

I pray that this blog continues to point you to the Father and not my walk. I’m not important here, becoming better for the Father is what is important. As the Father works with me understand that my uploads may decline. I will share only what my spirit moves me to share. Not what I learned and have studied. There’s a difference. Shalom and blessings to you.
“My brethren, be not many masters, knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation. For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.”(James‬ ‭3:1-2‬ ‭KJV)

Deceptive Fruit


You know what ticks me off? That shiny red (or green) apple. You know what I’m talking about sis. The one that LOOKS so fruitful and sweet but when you take that first bite you just spit out the rot you bit into. The next few things I holler out are: “yuck!” “eww!” “disgusting!”

Not only is it disgusting, but personally it’s aggravating to be deceived. What you thought you saw was not what it was. Sigh.

Often times, I have to look at my heart and realize I am that apple. Outwardly, I am beautiful. But inwardly, if the Father (or anyone) were to take a bite out of me, or even you sis, would He spit you out in disgust? Would He yell “You Hypocrite!” “you Deceptive Fruit!”

Sisters, I think looking nice is really important especially if you have a Head/husband that wants that of you. But remember:

“Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing gold, or of putting on of apparel; BUT let it be hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. (1 Peter 3:3-4)

That banana is pretty glamorous, maybe a little vain but where is the substance? Where is the fruit?!

Becoming a better woman requires daily evaluation on where the heart is. How we treat ourselves, others and how we choose to live reflects our walk and who we are. How ugly it is to see a beautiful woman who is contentious! The Father hates a contentious woman (Proverbs 25:24, Proverbs 21:9 and Proverbs 27:15). Some contentious women we recognize in scriptures are Delilah (seducing, deceptive spirit), the Proverbs 7 woman (harlot), and Jezebel (manipulative, feminist spirit). We don’t want to be like them, we want to be what Yahweh wants us to be, which is wise.

Here’s another situation in scriptures where Jesus found a deceptive fruit to be hypocritical.

“Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye make clean the outside of the cup and of the platter, but within they are full of extortion and excess. Thou blind Pharisee, cleanse first that which is within the cup and platter, that the outside of them may be clean also. Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye are like unto whited sepulchers, which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men’s bones, and of all uncleanness. Even so ye also outwardly appear righteous unto men, but within ye are full of hypocrisy and iniquity.” ( Matthew 23:25-28)

I don’t want this blog post to go any longer but sister I encourage you to examine your heart. Your hair is nice, your smile was created beautifully, you wear nice apparel. But your heart, where does it stand? Who is mankind that we must always check our self and make sure we are correct?! If only we corrected our hearts just as much as we updated our wardrobe and hair styles. Some of us spend so much money on our outward appearance but pay no mind to the rotting heart and mind we have. If only we COULD see it, man would we be more fearful about our salvation . But sis, this is your queue to examine and evaluate. Ask the Father to reveal the secret sins and to expose you to a light that will inspire you to be that better woman for His Kingdom.

“By their fruit you shall know them.” Matthew 7:16

Yahweh, I pray for the sister who reads this blog. I pray that you have stung or pierced her heart with conviction. If you have, I understand that you love her. And if she decides to work on her heart, I pray you give her strength where she falls weak. Encourage her to walk in your strait and narrow path and to become obedient. You’ve already created her beautiful, but may Your Holy Spirit move her to be inwardly beautiful. Thank you for her. I glorify Your name for allowing her to fall on to this blog post. Hallelu Yah! In Jesus’ name,  Amen. 

The Pumpkin Pie Recipe 

 Hey there sisters!! As promised on Instagram (@abetterwomancafe), it’s Sunday and my pumpkin pie recipe is up for my foodies!! 

 

The ingredients I used are as followed (every ingredient is not found in the image above):

  • 4 large eggs
  • 2 cans of carnation milk
  • 2 tsp of ground cloves
  • 1 cup of brown sugar
  • 1 tsp of sea salt
  • 1 tbsp of ginger 
  • 1 tbsp of cinnamon
  • 1 tsp of ground nutmeg
  • 1 can of Libby’s 100% pure pumpkin or half a pumpkin (boiled soft)
  • 2 pie crust 
  1. Preheat the oven at 425 degrees for 15 minutes.
  2. Mix the eggs, milk, ground cloves, brown sugar, sea salt, ginger, cinnamon, nutmeg and pumpkin into one large bowl. 
  3. Mix until it is smooth in texture.
  4. After 15 minutes, put the oven on 325 degrees.
  5. Pour mixture into two pie crust.  
  6. Place in oven until mixture is golden.
  7. To test: poke a knife at the middle of the pie to see if the knife will have pumpkin reside.
  8. Once you past the test, leave pie out to cool off.
  9. Enjoy (try it with some vanilla ice cream while it’s still warm out the oven 😩😋) 

So I was greedy and didn’t get to take a picture of both pies but rather started eating one. But here’s a picture of one straight out the oven :