Trust Yahweh and Let Him in.

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Shalom sisters, man has it been sooo long. I desire to write so many blogs but fail at completing them. I truly am not going to make an excuse and say I don’t have time. I haven’t prioritize this blog as I should. BUT. Now that I’ve told you (especially myself) that, I will be working on more frequent posts.

I don’t celebrate my birthday but I am a year older, and prior to this time I reflected a lot about my life and where I was with myself and Yahweh. I reflected on where I am and where I want to be or more so where Yahweh wants me. And I realized something. I’ve spent 20+ years trusting myself and have gotten nowhere. Jokes on my flesh, right? I live with my parents rent-free, college graduate, Master of Social Work candidate, working a job with great pay, “self-sufficient”. This is everything that “I” did because I always wanted it. This is what I defined as success. Independent black woman, right? please. I realized I spent the majority of my life trusting myself, and yes I climbed up WORLDLY ladders. But let’s be real, my self esteem was crazy low, I did not have a prayer life where the enemy knew he couldn’t mess with me, unless someone was lifting me up in prayer, I was not in peace, did not have a sound mind, bitter, mad at soo many people and myself. I mean, what wasn’t I dealing with? And it’s all because I did not Trust the Elohim Almighty. For many women in the world, this may not hit them/you (maybe) hard, if it doesn’t maybe you need to re-evaluate yourself. Seriously, do it.

Being the driver of my life for so many years, the Most High BROKE me and humbled my derriere. I truly thought I had it together, but I didn’t even have Him! WHAT?! Have mercy!!! DANGEROUS!!! Yes ma’am He humbled me cause I couldn’t do it myself. I am not going to be prideful and say I got tired anyway, because it’s nothing I did ( tearing up). If I wanted to, I could of drove my life some more, but HE helped me realized I was not going anywhere. Oh how the heart is wicked. But when the Most High chooses you, you can run as far as you want, but you have to make your choice if you will obey or be condemn. I made my choice.

The point of sharing all of this is to say: STOP trusting yourself. You know nothing. You know some vocabulary, proper English, some math, some history. That’s cute. Good job. But do you have applied knowledge, any spiritual gifts, a relationship with the Most High? Can Yahweh call YOU a friend? Are you at peace in the midst of the storm? Have inner joy? Have a passion in pleasing Yahweh? I don’t know about you but it’s recently I realized WHERE JOY was. DUH! in Yahweh! not me! Without Yahweh, I am foolish and without. NOTHING! UNWORTHY!

“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

“Blessed is that man that maketh the LORD his trust, and respecteth not the proud, nor such as turn aside to lies.” Psalms 40:4

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.Trust ye in the LORD for ever: for in the LORD JEHOVAH is everlasting strength” Isaiah 26:3-4

Set thy heart upon thy goods; and say not, I have enough for my life. Follow not thine own mind and thy strength, to walk in the ways of thy heart: And say not, Who shall controul me for my works? for the Lord will surely revenge thy pride. Ecclesiasticus 5:1-3

Purpose your heart to be set apart for the Most High and watch how He will take care of you. I love the back seat. Because I know that Yahweh has a better route for me then I EVER would’ve chosen for myself.

Be at peace sister. 🙂

 

Healing

Shalom viewers. Tonight, I was posted up on my bed and I was moved to share the healing of Yahweh. I pray this blog post encourages at least one viewer to seek healing from Yahweh. I pray that you understand that you cannot shut your wounds without the help of the ultimate Healer. For many years, I believed that time healed. All you have to do is move on and you’ll get over it. But what the Father taught me is that only He can heal. What time does is sweep and hide the wounds deep in the inner bellies of our beings, but truly they are never gone. The cure to all hurts, diseases, pains, grief, bitterness, hatred and much more is healing from Yahweh alone.

What Christianity teaches is that once you ask for healing, you receive it. Boom! it’s yours. But in actuality, healing does not work that way. Yahweh is not a Elohim whom you go and rub on and ask for assistance, and then He just provides it. In order to receive healing, we must meet Yahweh’s condition.What are His conditions?

And said, If thou wilt diligently hearken to the voice of the LORD thy God, and wilt do that which is right in his sight, and wilt give ear to his commandments, and keep all his statutes, I will put none of these diseases upon thee, which I have brought upon the Egyptians: for I am the LORD that healeth thee. (Exodus 15:26)

Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. It shall be health (healing) to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. (Proverbs 3:8-9)

To meet Yahweh’s condition we must fear Him and be obedient to His laws, statutes and judgments. We must rid ourself of sin  and turn to Yahweh.

I spent the first couple of months as a Hebrew Yisraelite, holding on to hurts, bitterness and unforgiveness towards others and myself.  I thought once I didn’t see the people who hurt me anymore, I was healed. Moving on… Good! Not the case. I ask Yah for forgiveness of being bitter and unforgiving but I truly didn’t forgive others even myself. I spent my life holding on to pain and “acting” like I was alright. But in reality I was building up strong walls around the hurt and not allowing Yahweh in. I proclaimed I loved Him, but how could I, with an unforgiving heart. I was not meeting His conditions.

It was not until I forgave myself (still in the process) that I realize, I need to forgive others and move on. Who am I to choose who to forgive when the Father freely forgive those who ask? I cast down that pride in the name of Jesus. But healing is not done in an instant. It truly is a daily process in letting the Father in, and trusting (knowing) He will do an excellent work in you. HalleluYah. I look forward to being completely healed so that I can share a concrete testimony as His witness.

 

 

Confession: I’ve murdered. 

As much as this blog is to help sisters become better in Christ, this blog is also to help me.

There’s a lot I still can’t share because there’s a lot I’m still working on. And I’m not a believer in telling a sister what to do when I haven’t searched for that spot in my eye (Matthew 7:3-5).

So to start: I’ve always thought I had one commandment together which was “You do not murder” (Exodus 20:13). But as I was studying my Word I found this sisters:

“Do not marvel, my brothers, if the world hates you. We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brothers. The one not loving his brother stays in death. Everyone hating his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has everlasting life staying in him. By this we have known love, because He laid down His life for us. And we ought to lay down for the brothers. ” ( 1 John 3:13-16)

How often do we love our brothers and sisters? And what are some ways we present our hate for our brothers and sisters?
I think as women and growing women (for those transitioning), it is really vital as daughters of the King to watch our thought process. Our thoughts reveal our hearts. And sister even scripture states that the heart is wicked (Jer. 17:9).

THINK: Have I said mean things intentionally to hurt my sibling because he/she hurt me? Things like: I wish you were never born, you’re so stupid, etc.  Or even in my actions, how have I showed love. Did I suck my teeth when your annoying coworker had a lot of bags in their hands and were walking too slow in front of you? Did you roll your eyes when the sister filled with happiness came around to hug you? (Is that normal?!)

Spend a lot of time examining how is it you choose your words /actions and why is it you slander those the way you do. Have they hurt you? Do they offend you? Why haven’t you seeked Your Father’s face for healing instead of telling the other sister about herself and how she hurt you?
REALIZE: The Spiritual war is not between man. What a Spiritual war this would be if we all realized we are distracted. How easy is it to forget that the war is between good and evil. Realize we waste time murdering each other when we just got to murder the enemies’ kingdom. He’s the enemy, he’s the liar, he’s the murderer! Not your boss!

Just to relate, if you personally know me, you know I am quiet-spirited for the most part. But when it came to someone trying to throw me under the bus, or disrespect me?! Oh, your girl was quick to let them know, I am not the one! And I was also quick to let them know they’re wrong and that they were this and  that.  I didn’t want to be around them or even look in their eyes. Ouch. But little did I know, it was also bitterness in my heart that didn’t allow me to love them when they hurt me. The same tongue I used to praise Jesus with, was the same tongue I used to say the nastiest thing about someone else. Oh man, who does my tongue serve?!

In becoming better, I encourage you to join me in following God’s commandments. Murdered your hater today? Ask the Lord for forgiveness. Truly, pray for your hater. They’re also fighting a fight. Murdered the girl that tried to talk to your boo or ex boo? Ask the Lord for forgiveness and to remove the spirit of bitterness. Words hurt. They hurt the Father when He hears your words too. Speak and practice acts of love sis!

The Pumpkin Pie Recipe 

 Hey there sisters!! As promised on Instagram (@abetterwomancafe), it’s Sunday and my pumpkin pie recipe is up for my foodies!! 

 

The ingredients I used are as followed (every ingredient is not found in the image above):

  • 4 large eggs
  • 2 cans of carnation milk
  • 2 tsp of ground cloves
  • 1 cup of brown sugar
  • 1 tsp of sea salt
  • 1 tbsp of ginger 
  • 1 tbsp of cinnamon
  • 1 tsp of ground nutmeg
  • 1 can of Libby’s 100% pure pumpkin or half a pumpkin (boiled soft)
  • 2 pie crust 
  1. Preheat the oven at 425 degrees for 15 minutes.
  2. Mix the eggs, milk, ground cloves, brown sugar, sea salt, ginger, cinnamon, nutmeg and pumpkin into one large bowl. 
  3. Mix until it is smooth in texture.
  4. After 15 minutes, put the oven on 325 degrees.
  5. Pour mixture into two pie crust.  
  6. Place in oven until mixture is golden.
  7. To test: poke a knife at the middle of the pie to see if the knife will have pumpkin reside.
  8. Once you past the test, leave pie out to cool off.
  9. Enjoy (try it with some vanilla ice cream while it’s still warm out the oven 😩😋) 

So I was greedy and didn’t get to take a picture of both pies but rather started eating one. But here’s a picture of one straight out the oven :

  

    The Problem with Emotions

    I’d say I spent my whole life being emotionally led. If someone hurt me, I had a bad day and if someone did good to me, it was a glorious day. The problem was I allowed others to control my life and I sinned every day not trusting my Father in heaven to direct my path. I allowed man to direct my path and to turn my eyes away from The Father.


    Sister, are you emotionally led? Do you allow people to hand you over your emotions? Or do you rebuke it?  Do you do the most silliest thing while you’re in your feelings?

    WARNING: We were created with emotions. Their functions are to help us communicate and motivate action. However we must not let them control us because they can be (1) deceptive and (2) straight up wrong.

    Should we act on every emotion?

    Are emotion facts?

    No. Some emotions can be sinful thoughts which lead to sinful actions. (E.g.: jealous thoughts to hateful actions)

    To be emotionally-led is to lack self control. So let’s check what scripture says about self-control.
    “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.” (‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭25:28‬)

    That doesn’t sound like a safe city or a civilized place/person. When I think of a city with no walls, I visualize a city with no government, unorganized, and disastrous. A unorganized person with no authority (from the Father) is very concerning and dangerous.

    “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.” (‭‭Galatians‬ ‭5:22-24‬)

    Challenge:

    Spend tomorrow, this weekend, next week (however long) processing your emotions and understanding how it got there and then analyze the reason why it’s there. Then ask, is it right? Is it healthy? Does it move me to love others? And does it inspire me to enter into the kingdom?

    As I do this more often I realize, I struggle with some emotions that I never knew existed within me. I’ve recognized how wicked I’ve allowed my heart to become. But I’m using this time now to become better. I encourage you to take the time to bring that emotion(s) to the Father through Jesus Christ and ask:
    Father, how did (emotion) get here? Forgive me for allowing (emotion) to live here. It is not my master, You are. Help me to forgive myself and the person that allowed (emotion) to get there. I just want to have Your fruits so that I can take on Your Spirit and not my flesh. So please, help me fight this emotion until Your return. In Jesus name, amen.

    Sister, checking out emotions seems tiny  especially since we are more emotional than men. You might think we are met to be this way. But remember, Christ calls us to be sound-minded. How can we be sound-minded if we’re not talking to our brother because he told us our work appears lazy? Especially if he’s telling the truth. Don’t let your emotions keep you from making it into the Kingdom.

    “Deliver us from evil Lord.” (Matthew 6: 13)

    Jeremiah 17:9, Mark 7:21-23

    Salsa, salsa, Salsa! 

    In becoming a better woman, it’s important that we become better at our future roles as a wife to our husband and a mother to our child(ren). And though the American society doesn’t believe it, cooking is a woman’s role in the Bible. Proof? 

    Proof. “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” (‭‭Titus‬ ‭2:3-5‬ )

    “So I want younger widows to marry, have children, and manage their homes so that they won’t give the enemy any reason to slander us. ”‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭5:14‬ ‭

    Side note: if you disagree, take it up with God in prayer sister.

    So today, I learned to make salsa from scratch.  Yes ma’am. 

    Here are the following ingredients I used (I used 1 tomato, a 1/2 of white onion and a 1/2 of red onion):  Above photo: tomatoes, jalapeño peppers, limes, white onion, red onion, cloves of garlic.  (I detox the produces with activated charcoal in water for about 3-4 minutes to remove toxins) 

     Above photo: so I squeezed the 3 limes and got lime juice. I added 1 tsp of cumin, 1 “cup” (not accurate measurement) of cilantro and 1 tbsp of chili pepper.
    So I used:

    1) 1 tomato but use more to reduce the “hot spicy” taste 

    2) 2 3/4 jalapeño peppers

    3) 1/2 of a white onion

    4) 1/2 of a red onion

    5) 5 cloves of garlic ( used mortar and pestle to “mash it” with 2 cloves and desired sea salt: but be careful with the sea salt, you cannot take away)

    6) 1 cup of cilantro (that’s a lot I used less than that)

    7) 1 tsp of cumin

    8) 1 tbsp of chile powder 

    Cut all the ingredients to desired size. Use food processor if you want to get the produce really small. I made my own chunky but wish I chopped up my onions a bit smaller. Pour all the ingredients together into a jar and let it sit in the fridge. 

     And just like that I made salsa: 

     
    I prepared rice, turkey meatballs, salad,  plaintains and added salsa on top of my dish: Delicioso
    Enjoy!! 
     

    Validation? But From Whom?


    Validate (verb) : to authorize, ascertain the truth (Dictionary.com)

    Some of you are familiar with this..
    I can’t make this move until I make sure so and so approves. And if he/she goes “ehhh…. I don’t know about that “maybe I should reconsider because I value their opinion to the point I idolize it. Or I’ll just let it go because if they don’t approve, they won’t support this (I NEEED them even if God approved this already) thus, it won’t work. Easypeasy!! (My nieces say this)

    Or this may be more familiar…
    Man. Everyone seems happy with someone besides them. Maybe if I get me a side thing, I will feel valuable and i can post about how much I’m happy with him (probably a lie). And who knows, though I claimed him as a side thing I can SEE him being my husband. But for now, I’ll just try it out cause I’m tired of being single. Yes, I may have to lower my standards and break God’s law but I NEED him to make me feel happy. 

    No sister, NO! Brethren, watch out now!

    Why have we made man god over our life?!

    I’ve experienced both scenarios above in different times in my life, more than once. And sure it worked out…but temporarily. I’ve always been filled with ideas but I grew up in a habit waiting to hear a yes from man or a “it’s okay” or a “I forgive you” to feel better about myself. But I’ve been seeking the wrong validation for too long.

    I remember shutting off ideas & telling myself it won’t work merely because other people shut them down….

    “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”‭‭ (Matthew‬ ‭6:33)

    Point blank, I should’ve seekers God and brought my ideas and EVERYTHING before the Lord in prayer.

    “I sought the LORD, and He heard me, And delivered me from all my fears.”‭‭ (Psalms‬ ‭34:4‬)

    He listens to our prayers, 24 hours 7 days a week.

    I have questions. Did man place your idea to help the homeless in your mind? Why not bring it before God the Father. Feeling unhappy? Trust me! I know, BUT take this advice: give your heart to Christ. POUR it out. For “blessed are those who keep His testimonies, Who seek Him with the whole heart!”‭‭(Psalms‬ ‭119:2‬)

    Think about it, a sinner can and will never fill another sinners heart.

    Man cannot fill man up.

    Man cannot complete you.

    Man cannot provide you with eternal gifts.

    And at any moment man makes you “feel” good temporarily, you should think about how this betters you.

    “Hell and Destruction are never full; So the eyes of man are never satisfied.”‭‭(Proverbs‬ ‭27:20‬)

    Seek validation from where abundance comes from. Not validation that lacks.

    “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”‭‭(John‬ ‭10:10‬)
    If you’re reading this, you are most likely interested in becoming a better woman. So I encourage you in love to seek your validation from God. He already has. He sent His only Son to die on the cross for you and I.

    Here’s how I see it, man don’t have facts. We have opinions. In what manner does one have the right to place his/her opinion on you?

    Allow the Word to build you up. Cause when a storm comes around, you’ll stand firm in God knowing you’re on solid rock.

    If you seek to be filled by man, stop. You’ve already have a chance in God. Choose Him and you won’t ever regret it. Man can deny you, and even hate you. But fix your eyes on Jesus and you’ll have peace pass any man’s understanding.