I pray you are well, healthy, living in the spirit Yahweh, and being positive! Yes you! ☺️
I haven’t forgotten my friends and followers. And I really do hope you all haven’t forgotten this platform I’ve created for you. Cause I am so grateful to know my viewers enjoy this blogsite. I’ll be back sooner than you know it! Just wanted to send love peace and joy.
P.S. check out the new signature logo. I’ll be writing a separate post about it and more down the line.
Peace and love y’all!
I’m so excited to write about my favorite time of the year…SPRING!
Flowers are blooming, leaves are growing and dancing, rain showers are here and it’s getting warmer. Well, at least on some days. This sister is still wearing winter coats here and there.
Before I knew I was a Hebrew Yisraelite, this time of the year mattered to me in a natural sense. Why? Because it just felt new. Come on, bright colors and beautiful flowers return. I love flowers and nature so much, thus I love to watch the plants & flowers bloom to be beautiful and become their purpose. There’s much symbolism there. Such as obedience, joy, order, and peace. (But that’s another blog post!)
What I do enjoy about spring or the arrival of it is….
Yesterday I can home from work early and decided that I can start cleaning out my closets and dressers. I let go of clothes, shoes, papers I thought took space and no longer needed. Then the thought was placed in my mind that spring cleaning is so deeper than searching my closet!
Spring cleaning has a lot of symbolism in it for me in a spiritual sense that I’d like to share.
Cleaning out my things is symbolic to purging my life, like a detox. Today, I went through my clothes and belongings to see what I use or don’t use, what’s taking up space and what’s useful. It helps declutter and just bring about a renewed peace. Letting go is apart of the process, and depending on your will, that can be the hardest part of the process. But we’ve got to clean up!
Being a Hebrew Yisraelite, I recognize that the Feast of the Most High Yah, Passover is approaching. Spiritually, it is a time of self-reflection to see if there be leaven/sin (yeast) in my heart. And when sin is acknowledged, the purging begins. This is similar to throwing things out, The Most High takes an active part in His people’s lives by showing them their sins.
“Search me, O Ěl, and know my heart; Try me, and know my thoughts; And see if an idolatrous way is in me, And lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalms 139:23-24
In becoming a better woman, I want to let go of so much that binds me to the old girl I used to be. It takes more than writing this blog. Just as cleaning out a room can take up time (depending on the clutter) purging takes action/work.
I’m so grateful for spring! I’m so grateful for this new year!
If you desire to become a better woman, while you search your closets, search your heart for any negativity you’ve been harboring. My hope is that you let it go and gain positivity .
Shalom!
Good question!
Blessings to ALL of my viewers, readers, and supporters. You know you are welcome to visit here at all times. And you’re also welcome to follow me on Instagram, Pinterest and can also e-mail me at abetterwomancafe@gmail.com. And if you didn’t know that, now you do! Lol, I really do like hearing from you all. It helps me know I’m not singing a sad song and that someone is interested in this blog haha! PS: I’ll follow you back so we can stay connected.
So back to answering the question. When I first started this blog last October, I was not half the person I am today. No, no. I don’t think I’m all of that now. But it’s true. I knew less and carried a lot more emotionally, spiritually and especially mentally. BUT. There’s one thing that has remain the same. The desire to be a better woman.
…and that’s what my blog is about.
Desiring better for myself and other women. I desire to live, think, love, cook, pray better. Do I have all the answers? Nope. After all I’m still a youngin lol. So if you’re a mommy desiring to become better, I’d love to hear from you on how I can become a better woman! Real stuff. Because I’m not a mother yet. I can’t share what I don’t know, so let’s make this into a community. With straight posivity, support, love and growth. Oh, now I’m pumped!
So stay tuned with my blog. There are a lot of changes coming and I’m excited for the route of this blog. If you have any ideas you’d like to share, please leave them in the comment below!
Otherwise, I look forward to connecting with you via social media.
Peace and love y’all!
Rachel Nadine
Hey amazing readers!
I’ve been away for about two weeks and I am officially back. Back with more juice, energy, pazazz and all that good stuff!
In two weeks, so much has changed! Lol, it’s interesting how that happened but that’s my life. What I am proud to say is, a lot has changed for the better but we can talk about that in another blog right?!
I do want to share what taking a break from social media for 1-1.5 week has done for me. Cause I’m feeling like a N E W woman! Haha! Let’s get to it!
Time away was very much needed y’all! I learned about myself (and others) and I decided to change a few things. Truthfully, I was getting a bit tired in other areas in my life, so I needed to rest. You know … I took my own advice (Click here for my own advice).
Sometimes we just need time away, to unplug, reconnect, rest and recharge. Make sure you are giving yourself that time to do so. I challenge you to try it for a day and spend time with amazing people. You alone can be that amazing person! You’ll discover so much! Give it a try! If you’ve tried it before or want to take up the challenge, share below! I want to hear from you!
Rachel Nadine
Welcome viewers! Grab some tea, coffee or hot chocolate (if you’re nutty for hot chocolate like me). Enjoy the read!
Let’s see if you can relate! You have a goal and you think of one million tasks it will take to accomplish it. And right there, you begin! You run out to buy all your supplies or you pull out whatever you need. Your goal is to get it done and get it done ASAP! You’re excited and your mind is flooded with so many ideas and joy. And with all your excitement, you want to tackle one hundred million tasks in one day and accomplish your goal. You just want to see the results!
So you’re doing it. You’ve done about four goals and you’re getting it! Go on now! But then… you’re stuck on the fifth one. It’s about one in the morning and you’ve got a full morning planned and you cannot afford to be tired. But hey, you’re only on the fifth out of one hundred million tasks. And you think, once I get pass this fifth task, I’ll be done in no time. You look at the time again and it’s 2 am and your eyes are sooo darn tired. By the way, you’re still on the fifth task cause you made a huge mistake or something went wrong. The excitement starts to decrease and decrease until it’s gone. Now you’re frustrated so you get ready for bed. At this moment, you’re realizing you won’t accomplish this goal tonight. Cause the realistic thing to do is get ready for bed. You’ve got that full morning to overcome and try to be all intentional for (check out my blog on how I’m exercising intentional-ism), but you’re not even heading to bed in a positive mindset.
You’re upset. In one day, you had this awesome goal that came to mind and you wanted to accomplish it, all in that one day. You allowed your mind to tell you this: because you didn’t do it in one day, just let it go because it’ll never be accomplished. Or it tells you: I’m not willing to plan this out, because I want my goal, and I want it now (please stop) or you actually plan to get to it the next day, but instead you ignore it and do something else. You’re giving yourself poor negative talk which may just result in a completely failed goal.
When you fail you can either give up, or assess, plan and try it again.
The scenario above is a bad habit I harbored in the past. I’ve tried to build mansions within one day. And it was never successful. I failed to plan and I failed to rest. I’d work myself up so much because I was so excited not realizing my decisions were not timely and I was making myself tired in all sorts of ways. I wasn’t working with a strategic plan! I was sprinting this race from the start trying to sprint it out to the end. Gasping for air and I am nowhere near the finish line. No bueno!
If you’re anything like this dirty habit, I encourage you to plan. It’s not that your idea is flat out wrong. It may just be immature with poor strategic plans and you may be burnt out from trying to build it in one day. Being burnt out is a negative because you begin to feel all types of ways about your once exciting goal! But really I learned all I have to do is rest, don’t quit. Resting can take a day to a span of a week, just make sure you rest well so that you can come back with full strength and a strategic plan.
And if you’re nothing like that old habit, keep doing what you do and become better! Share some tips below for those of us who are still crawling out of this bad habit shell.
Plan your success and take breaks! Do something relaxing or reward yourself for the little victories you’ve gained so far. I believe you can build that mansion, maybe not in one day, but I believe you can build it with awesome planning and resting. Go no now, you can do it!
Rachel Nadine
My childhood was something like this: wake up, go to school, go to church, play sports, dance, sing, repeat. Of course, there were days were I did things I enjoyed like blogging, vlogging, learning to sew, hang out etc. But for the most part I did a lot of tasks under the mindset of “you’re just suppose to” rather than the “let’s get it!”mindset. So if you asked me what did I do in the last five ( or even ten) years of my life, today I’d say I existed. I met my requirement in every place but I was never really…Intentional. Because average was okay, I made the cut. But who’s really happy making the cut? I know I really wasn’t.
Now, here is where I can insert my sob story on how I grew up which is why I wasn’t intentional, but I won’t throw my valuable energy there, because I just don’t want to and it won’t benefit you or even myself.
One day, I got tired of doing the daily do’s and had to ask myself realistic questions because I was not happy being average. What do you want Rachel? Are you happy? Are you successful? How much do you care about your success? What do you even define as success? I saw others succeed and wanted the same. Not their story exactly, but success in how it was properly defined for me. I began asking them questions, no matter how silly I felt, and answering my own questions for what they were.
Hearing the answers did hurt. But that “hurt” brought forth change. Some days better than others. But little by little, a new flower was sprouting! A happy intentional one.
In being intentional, I am able to understand what my goals are clearly and do things with meaning. For example, I no longer go to work because I have to (granted, I really do have to). But I make the most of work. If I am going to work, I am going to be the best at what I do. I want to be the best hugger/lover. I want to be the best sister, daughter, wife, friend, you NAME it.
And all of those best exist in outdoing myself. In outdoing myself, I have strategies on what I do to track my life and my success and slip ups (which will bring forth success). I longer want to be average. I have NO desire in doing so. I find joy in being intentional. Whatever I take part in, I put high expectation within myself to strive and do it with the greatest intent ever.
Are you striving? Are you happy with where you at? Don’t be average. Imagine how great you could be if only you did things with meaning?
Shalom,
Rachel Nadine
I am back!! I’ve been away from this blog for so long and I just have to blurt this one out: I MISSED IT HERE! *exhales* I just missed writing and just sharing what I am learning to be that better woman in every role gifted to me. Even the writer’s role! Yea, Rachel even the writers role!
What’s been up, you ask? I must say there is just much going on that honestly keeps me from getting on here to write. For example, work has gotten heavier which knocks me out when I get home, much is required of me in my parent’s home as far as keeping the home, and last but not least, I’m planning my husband to be and i’s wedding shower! Yes, I’m granted the wonderful opportunity to be his wife! Exciting but planning as been time-consuming.
Neither of the tasks above can ever be legit excuses, and neither am I complaining about them. Actually, I’m superbly grateful for finances to pay things off, my parents and the ability to love them up before I’m off to a new home, and the opportunity to become a awesome man’s wife. My focus however has not been here but the blog has been on my mind and is finally penciled into my schedule.
Your girl has got plans with this blog. With the changes being made in my life, I would like to tweak the avenue of my blog. The goal to become a better woman is endless in my life, but I desire to share more detailed and personal blogs. Therefore, I’ll be creating a section called, “a better wife” aside from the devotionals and DIYs.
The goal isn’t to give the insides of our life, but to share what I am learning.
So stick around, in becoming a better woman, that includes becoming a better and consistent writer.
Shalom & blessings!
Rachel Nadine
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